KateP's musings

Although i haven’t made contact with Liz except for the few text messages from the birthday or butt dialing and I think of her from time to time (evidence of mentioning in the THankful THursday posts) i got an alert that she finally saw pictures I shared with her.  Well I haven’t shared any since probably the summer (before the argument). A part of me (and I know this sounds a little “off”) is wondering if she is checking up on me through various avenues without calling?  To find proof I am not doing what should be done?  One of the reasons I say this is because if and when Lawyer Bob leaves and gives the trusteeship to an associate and they don’t want it then it goes to who else? Sis.  If she does get it what is to stop her from coming over anytime she wants and “take inventory” of things?  Something I get concerned about for sure. My phone had been acting wonky.  Didn’t alway unlock so I can use it.  Had to keep putting my pin # and it's getti...

October 8, 2013 Dear Friends: Hope your Tuesday went well.  Mine did.  I got up by 6:30 and did some surfing and then got ready and left the house by 7:30.  As usual I probably should have left a little earlier but made it okay. We had an early morning fire drill that took probably a half hour or so.  Since we had new departments and increase volume of people the Fire Department and Safety people needed to have one..  Can someone explain why we have to do it in in the cold?   The rest of the day was fairly quiet.  I had a lot of mail and will need to finish the rest in the morning.  I worked on re-address mail that also included stuff that came in today including the Medical Society magazines.   I did offer to you know make a bon fire.   Mom was annoyed with me when I got home but she was not feeling well either.  She didn’t like the fact I didn't clean the table off from dinner last night.  I didn’t particularl...

August 7, 2013 Dear Friends: I am still working on the post midnight/no sleep entry and it will be posted later.  Once I get home from Rita’s and I get other things done. I am not sure what time I ended up falling asleep but it wasn’t a restful sleep at all.  my hands were hurting and the toe wasn’t as bad but I had taken  the generic tylenol.  People I have spoken too seem to think it might be gout.  I don’t know if Mom even thought of thought last night when I showed it to her.  I kept hitting the snooze button on the alarm.  Then started running late and then got sick from something.  I had to take a second shower. JIm is leaving for home today.  He expressed some concern that Mom is not as well as we had hoped and he thinks that status is progressing faster than we thought.  I think he is worried, sad, scared.  I know I am going to be.  I let him know that as long as we stick together we will get thro...

Dear Debra:     Yeah its Friday.  Its also way hot.  I hope you are keeping cool I am going to be doing some laundry soon and that’s all I am doing..  For a few reasons.  Its Friday night and I usually don’t get much accomplished on Friday.  My arm has been giving me grief again as of late.   I think it started earlier this week.  Its all the repetitive motion I have been doing with the mail and the scanning at work.  Well that’s what I Think it is. I am afraid it will be rather uncomfortable place here this weekend.  While we were at the step great-nieces house for a picnic Mom irritated me a lot.  She was correcting how I was sitting at the table, Telling me what to eat and what not to eat.  I kept giving her the eye and gritting my teeth telling her to stop doing it.  On the way home we argued about directions she got on my freaking nerves so much we barked at each other.  I wanted to tell her off so...

I can’t believe it has been three days since I wrote. I have been going crazy doing things for not only the shared living but for the trip. I barely remember what I did Friday. I do remember that Anthony was supposed to sit with me was a no show. I got everything done and out of the way by the time I left the office. Friday night we celebrated Mom’s return to her own bed. She can go up and down the stairs with relative ease. Just as long as someone is near by. She can do pretty much everything as long as she has the energy. I have had to finish up things she couldn’t but she has been cooking, all weekend. I also check in on the cat for what I thought was the last time. I would discover that wasn’t the case. I did laundry and have made the spare room my packing room. As the weekend has progressed more laundry has been done but not much else. Saturday I did grocery shopping and banking and we had visitors. I was exhausted by the time I got home from shopping. After dinne...

In a short while the alarms will be going off for five. I don’t know what time I actually woke up but I have been online surfing the net and watching TV. I am going to try and lie down again for a short while. Then I am going to work and then to see Mom again and see if she needs anything. I think part of the reason I was up so early is because I wanted to be up to see if I could do anything (other than watch TV). I managed to get the guest bedroom made up. I also was now getting upset by an incident yesterday. I called Liz and Nelson and Nelson answers the phone and tells me that Mom snapped at Liz and Liz left and ended up crying in the car. Nelson talked her through it but when he was telling me about it he was saying Mom is nasty. My problem is I know Liz She tends to be controlling and cutting in her comments, and is judgmental. I also know Mom she is impatient and controlling as well. Neither of them (Liz and Nelson) are willing to see what they bring to a situation. Hop...

I had a great time yesterday. The Coulombe family reunion was yesterday. There were about 50 of us. Aunt Rosalie was there. Most of the Heberts were there. Robbie and Judy H from the Harris branch and Joan Slavin-Rice were there. Sadly they avoided each other. The New Jersey Branch of the Coulombes could not attend. Donna B-Hall was there helping out. Bill Coulombe sans wife (her flight cancelled and she would have missed it all) was there. His Brother Bob and his family were there. Their brothers Joe and Frank couldn’t attend. Jim and the kids were there. Bob and Ethel and John were there. Of course the Rivera clan were in attendance and it was great. The food was catered by Lassie’s restaurant in Milford. They really did a great job. They had Eggplant, a chicken dish, ziti, salad and I can’t remember what else. Hours later if you were hungry there was hot dogs and hamburgers. I had only one hamburger and potato salad as my ankle was becoming swollen and I had to ice it. In b...

I heard from Dave this afternoon. I called him earlier today to confirm his arrival this afternoon. He was just going to his car. He arrived probably around Noon time. We discussed Aunt Rita (I apparently forgot to tell him that Mom was going down and that Rita was terminal). We discussed the whole Bin Laden take down. WE both agreed that it would not do anyone any good to see pictures of his body because there will always be someone questioning it or doubting it. WE also discussed the down payment method for the Trip to Canada. We also confirmed that I would be taking care of the pup next week. I had a surprise call from my Joanie R. The lovely woman I work with her had a stroke while I was on vacation. She had been back in the hospital recently because of dehydration and just today has been moved to Masonicare at Newtown. She had PT this morning and was expecting two more this afternoon. She will be having it three times a day while she is there. I told her about my Aunt. I prob...

Today Mom asked me if Liz and Nelson discuss her when I visit their home and I told her no. This came about last night when Liz and Nelson came by to drop off the rugs from Aunt Serena and Warren. While Mom was talking to Liz Nelson was trying to get Liz to leave. Mom put him in his place. The question was a rather awkward one to answer but I told her no. In the past they have but I also told a few things. First she should talk to them about it and she flat out refused. Something I don’t agree with. She feels that continuing to discuss things exacerbates problems. In the very distant past Nelson has said things to me criticizing Mom on how she treats me and Liz. Unfortunately he needs to take a good long hard look at his behavior. I also said to Mom that I try to avoid conversations like that. Sometimes I do feel as though we are gossiping or bitching but at the same time children discuss things about their parents. I am certain Mom had done it with her siblings over the years w...

Hey everyone its the end of a busy weekend. Friday my vacation came to an end and the beginning of going back to a regular routine started on Saturday. Mom presided over a wedding here at the house and we had 20 people in our small living room. I also was having my computer reinstalled as it crashed on Friday. Today I had my bingo and then went to my sister's for a family gathering to introduce the family to the newest additions to the Rivera family. Now I am just relaxing and keeping an eye on my computer (Mom's letting me use hers until mine is all set with updates and stuff). I am sort of aggravated right now as somethings that bothered me today during the family gathering and during bingo have been going over in my head: 1) As a friendly gesture I was getting to know a new resident and her daughter. The daughter thought my asking her where she was from was a little "too personal". My response is to fucking grow up. (the bingo session) 2) I picked ...

She called just before 6 and told me how things were going. He has been sleeping most of the time since she arrived. I am not sure what that means exactly. I did ask if they gave expectancy but she quickly said no. She said that she would be leaving there in the morning and getting into Hartford around 4:40 and it would take about an hour for her to get her luggage and then drive home. She asked how things were going here I told her fine. I didn’t tell her I left the heat on all day today. How dumb can I be? I told her about the phone calls she got. They were the Prescription stuff, Rita calling, and Robbie Allen. Oh man I don’t know what is going on but everything I seem to touch is taking too long to do. As it is I started getting angry and imagining conversations or shouting matches with Liz. I talked with her tonight but it went fairly well. We talked earlier in the day and I asked her if we were alright and she told me she was annoyed with me for criticizing and judging t...

Hey everyone. Yesterday turned out to be rather stressful. I ended up not writing a whole lot because of that stress. While vacuuming I managed to make a big mess. I was vacuuming in the bathroom in the kitchen and I wasn’t paying attention to where I had the wand/hose to the Kirby (in the toilet). It sucked up about 1 or 2 cups of water into the bags. It then leaked all over the floor. I finally had to tell Mom and she was really upset. We finally got it apart (the bag from the rest of the machine and as I did it a ring of hers popped out. It was one she thought she had lost. The whole ordeal was very stressful. Donny checked out the vacuum cleaner and feels I didn’t do any damage to the motor. I just didn’t use it the rest of the time vacuuming downstairs. I have to admit I was pretty angry and thought Mom was incredibly abusive at least Verbally. She was better by the time we left for Cheryl’s. We had to go in separate cars because Mom had dinner plans with her friend ...

Actually Monday is the official last day of recess week but today felt like the end was near. I spent a lot of time trying to catch up on stuff. I still have a lot to do but I think I can do it. I just have to remember starting Jan 2, 2008 if i feel overwhelmed then I need to get to patti. I sitll have to get the mail from the lobby and sort it and readdress it but I wanted to get the stuff I have at my desk out first. I don't think that's going to happen. It was after 4:30 when I got home. Mom was putting a book cover on the cookbook I gave her for Christmas. We would be having chicken for dinner a little later. At dinner Mom told me she had talked iwth Rita about Carol and the current health crisis. MOm is just not veyr comfortable with the information that Rita is providing. They are not being forthcoming or not telling eveyrthing. Liz and Mom talked aobut it and Liz was expecting Mom to go be with Rita. She was saying Bernie would. I thought it was a stupid thing...

It is gray and cloudy right now. I am not even bothering to pay attention to the weather report on the radio. It is supposed to be sunny today and probably in the 30’s. Just checked weather.com and it is 29 degrees and cloudy. Sunrise was 18 minutes ago. The sun came out a little after 8…yeah... I spent the morning updating my address book surfing the net and watching TV. I took my bath around 11 and got dressed. Mom came home Dave came for me around 12:40 and we headed to the movie theater. We got the tickets and then got some food. I really over did it. Two slices of pizza, fries with cheese and chili and a shake. We went and saw Casino Royale. It was good by at one point I noticed it got really long. Afterwards I had to use the ladies room and then we went to Borders. We found a CD for Patrick and Dave got his card and then we headed back to the car it was just 3:30. Mom was on the computer. She had gone shopping we talked about dinner and around 5 we ate. We had salmon...