September 6, 2013
Dear Friends:
Another beautiful morning. It had to have been in the 50’s this morning. I tell you it was great sleeping weather. That will have to wait until tomorrow though. It stayed cool all day and did not get out of the 60’s.
Work went well and as I expected was able to catch up with the daily work and managed to get more of the re-address mail done too. The team gave me a belated birthday party of Subway sandwiches and a cake and really funny card. I wanted to make sure that my immediate supervisors and manager got a piece of cake. Neither of them wanted them. For various and understandable reasons. So I gave it to my soul sister TD and one other supervisor.
I was a little late getting home as I was chatting with a union organizer seeking volunteers for primary day in New Haven. I had to decline as I will be working in our town for our primary. But she was on a mission to convince two people why they should be voting for Toni Harp and I believe she did well.
When I finally did get home Mom was in the kitchen. She looked beat. She had just finished cleaning ‘stuff’. Apparently her day ran into some issues. First thing this morning (after I talked with her) the lowes delivery service brought the new stove. They claimed they called (they called a wrong number) then they broke our toaster and when they tried to take the old stove out they realized it was Hardwired to the fuse box downstairs. They had the freaking nerve to say they were going to have to leave the stove in the living room and we were to have the electrician come in and install it. WTF?
So she told them take it back she was cancelling the order. So that's what she did. She spoke to the manager and he cancelled the order. She said he would have just taken the stove back without question. She hadn’t paid for it yet but to me this was outrageous.
Tomorrow I Have to fix the kitchen window screen Mom pushed it in too far and it is not in straight. I am not sure I can do it while over the sink and I don’t know how successful I will be on the ladder for outside. I will keep you posted.
While MOm got into her pajamas I set the dishwasher going and had my dinner. It was beefaroni. It hit the spot Mom had some toast and cream of wheat and is relaxing downstairs.
After a week of not hearing from Jim I called him today. He has been recovering from surgery. He apparently had a cyst on his shoulder and it grew. Long story short its benign and slow to heal. Anyway we finally had the conversation about what should happen when Mom finally passes. He feels I will be the one doing the calling and he tells me there is five things to do. One of them I asked Mom about tonight.
1. Get the certificates Birth, Marriage and one other.
2. Call the funeral home
3. Call the POlice (that may be #2)
4. Call the church
5.
He feels that the certificates should be at the fingertip type level and not searching for them at the moment after death. He apparently reminded Mom of that today when they spoke. She promised to get them together “but not today”.
I asked him how he was feeling about it all personally. He says sometimes fine and not so much. Through all of his conversations with Mom he has made peace with her and made her know that he is grateful for all that she has done for him and realized things were not perfect from his end or both not really sure. By the end of the conversation I did remind him that if he ever needed to talk at lengths that he could call me night or day.
Anyway it looks like we each have a unified game plan now whether or not we stick to it and anyone else who wants to jump in and start telling us what to do or take control is a matter of view. That may not make sense now that it past midnight.
Mom is in bed...nearly had a heart attack when she turned around and saw me standing in front of her coming out of the bathroom I thought for sure she was going to fall backwards. I am going to go myself.