Well Well Well

 I couldn't sleep last night so I did some surfing.   Something told me to check my accounts.  So I did.   The knights org that created the scholarship in my brother in laws name finally cashed the check I sent them in May.  I was relieved been waiting awhile.

I remember Liz was getting anxious because people were asking about it a few weeks later. 

I don't understand why it takes so long.  I remember the Ladies Guild  finally cashed the check I wrote for my dinner choice and I ended up not going.  I was expecting a refund but I am guessing for things like that it can't be done.

There is one more check I am expecting.   That is for the retirement party for my admin.

Hopefully this won't make Too many  problems for me. 

Today is the family cousin chat

 

Later this afternoon is the long anticipated Phelan Family chat.   It’s at 4 this week.  I thought it was at the beginning of the month and was very disappointed that I got the date wrong.  I am not sure who is going to be there.  Well I do know of three people J, Sis and myself.  I hope I will be there.

The WIFI was out again and this has been happening at least once a week.  This is illegal.  The only other option is Frontier or something. It is a major complaint weekly.  I am tired of it.  Luckily it was rectified by 7:30.  I would have been pissed if I had to miss the family chat.

Before I do those I need to go grocery shopping, organize the office, and do some financial auditing of my own.

The sun is out and it is in the mid-20s it’s supposed to stay that way with some clouds.  I have discovered that when it says clouds it doesn’t necessarily mean rain clouds but the beautiful shaped clouds that you can find shapes in at times.  The next time we will have snow looks like will be Tuesday.  It also looks like we should be getting some snow showers the following week.

It is now just before 6.  This afternoon is almost a fog for me.  I got a call from Liz today with the news that Lawyer man has paid off my one of my credit cards and part of another card.   Liz will mail them off tomorrow and I should get confirmation in about a week.  I am supposed to show him the confirmation email when it arrives.

After that we worked on the other curtains and valences for the rooms and I am not sure when they will arrive.  Liz left around 3:30 and I got ready for the cousin chat.

I was the first to arrive, Judy and then Maura and eventually Liz.  I gave Judy a quick tour of the place and that’s just about the time Maura came in and then about quarter after Liz joined in.  I had no idea that Liz asked me for the link.  I hadn’t seen it until much later.  We talked about our family, Corvid and what we have been doing.  We were hoping some of the other cousins would join but that didn’t happen.  I did learn that siblings not on good terms seem to be throughout the family.  We are having another family chat in the next month or so.

Liz and I were talking about the cats being on the couch.  I was sharing how much I have been trying to keep them off and she said well if they are sitting on the blanekts its okay.  That’s not what she said before! J  She even suggested that I put the new beds on the couch and they would sit on them.  Well late this evening after the cousin chat one started and so I put the other one on the couch and both of them were on the beds sleeping.  So now I fully understand that it’s okay for the cats to be on the furniture as long as it’s covered.

After the chat I fed the cats and made some more turkey burgers.  I was too tired to go out shopping.  I also talked with Mama R.

WE had spoken just before Liz came about the finances she was giving me suggestions on what to do.  We spoke further on the matter about an hour ago.  I am not sure all the suggestions I am going to take.  That will have to be thought about more another day for now I am going to sleep.

This coming week should be fairly quiet:

We have another Covid19 zoom class on remote working tomorrow.  I hope my equipment is cooperating tomorrow.

Tuesday is Committee meeting.

My hope is to keep up with the eob scanning and work on the backlog refund scanning.  I hope to also reorganize my desk so it doesn’t look like there was an explosion.

I have my session with Debra tomorrow night.  Other than that I have no other appointments.

I am expecting some of the window treatments and the last remaining items for the condo to arrive this week. 

My sleeper sofa will be here later in march.

I am feeling optimistic right now.  I believe I know my goals and can achieve them.

 

 

 

Ya Remember when?

 

Ya remember when I wrote Friday that I was feeling better and I talked to my sister>> well that was short lived.  The headache was back and I was heading home from picking up my regular prescriptions.  I called Liz back for something I can’t remember what and we got to talking about how my niece saw the picture of the cats on the brand new furniture.

It pissed both of them off and she was angry but she didn’t sound it when she hung up.  But I was angry.  I ended up calling Mama Roberta and ranted to her about it for nearly an hour or more.  We then discussed the credit card stuff and she wanted to now the interest rates and ending dates on the statements.  She explained that if it adds up to the minimum payment that’s fine but if doesn’t (like adding more) then it could be against me.

Most of that night I was semi successful at keeping the cats off the furniture, I also ended up ordering two self-heating cat beds.  They should be here by Tuesday I think.  Liz had sent me a link for a scratching post that could be adhered to on the chair.  She wanted to know what I thought of it.  I said it would be confusing the shit out of the cats. 

On Saturday hadn’t talked much with Liz until that night.   I sent her a text about one of the kitchen chairs coming apart at the split below.  She sent me a text that she had been literally in bed with the tooth infection.  She had texted me a suggestion that maybe cover the furniture with sheets or something to allow them to sit on the chairs especially,

So we talked on the phone for about 20 minutes discussing why she got so mad at me about the furniture.  She went on to say that it was hard work going shopping, researching, pricing etc. and to get Lawyer man to agree to pay for it(btw, yes I am aware  it’s my money but…).  She feels that I will not be able to get new furniture or anything nice again if it is ruined or not taken care of.  She also did that “you also said you would change”.  This whole thing isn’t lost on me either.  She feels this also took a lot of her emotionally, physically etc.  So all the things I said in my rant I never did get to say to her. 

She says she understands I want to have the cats cuddle and that they do sit everywhere and anywhere.  She related how a friend of hers was on the computer and the cat walked right across the keyboard because she wasn’t paying attention to the cat.  Liz supposedly understands this.  

In my own defense I said to her I do understand why and I don’t want to constantly be arguing about shit. I am not doing things to appease you either.  Although, I think keeping the cats off the furniture may be construed as appeasing.   We eventually went past that conversation and talked about the dining room chair which will be gorilla glued at another time.  I also told her I got the greatest electric bill ever.  The one thing I didn’t tell her was bout the Home again membership annual renewal.  So when we hung up we came to an understanding of sorts.

The weather this weekend started off to match my mood.  It rained Friday into Saturday and most of Saturday was gray and cloudy.  I do remember seeing the sun come out midafternoon.  Right now the sun seems to be playing hide and seek behind the clouds. It’s 41 degrees and that’s as high it’s getting today. 

I spent most of Saturday doing my version of cleaning.  Just before lunch time I cleaned the bathroom.  In place like this it should take probably no more than an hour.  It took a little longer.  I stopped in between and watched TV.  I didn’t clean the kitchen until later on in the evening (right before the phone call with Liz). 

I did spent the time after lunch and before the night watching my weekend programs the cooking shows on PBS.  The Aerial America shows on Sundance.  I am not sure what else I want to do today.  I know I have to work on the office and get it organized but I want to relax.  Put off today what can be done tomorrow.

 

Been So Long

 

It’s been so long since I last actually posted any of my blog entries this week.  I keep saying I will go back over them and finish them and then post but then more time goes by and gets away from me.

The house and condo situation:  Well Liz and I have been making a lot of progress with clearing out project.  We managed to get the cellar cleaned out with the help of a friend of hers and of my BIL.  Made several trips to goodwill and made a trip to the dump.  Some of the things that are left will be going to friends and family.  In the weekend coming up I believe we will be working on the Attic and then bedrooms, and then office and then finally the kitchen and dining room. 

Jim will be speaking to “He who will not be named” by Labor Day and apprising him of the progress.  I am told that Liz suggested that Jim also discuss perhaps begin the process of having “he who will not be named (the lawyer)” removed as the trustee and perhaps make my siblings the trustees.   It would involve some of the proceeds of the sale of the house to do that. 

My Niece has been searching for prospects and has brought to my attention as recent as yesterday of five potential places.  Three are about 4 miles away.  Another one I have looked at before and is close to my sister and to the Nursing home I used to volunteer at.  Another one is 9 minutes northwest of here.  Near what is known as route 1 and in between Orange and Milford.

My hope is we can look at them this weekend.  I have also let her know that I would be willing to take time off from work to go looking as well.  She says evenings and weekends would be best for sellers and we will do the best. 

Jim will be coming up in the next two weeks (to help I hope) and to pick up stuff I have collected for him to take into possession. 

Finances or budget:  I am constantly reworking the budget I have and been doing better without using the credit cards (all but one has been shredded).  Jim told me in our last phone conversation that if this method isn’t working for me (using only one in emergency) that  can always request new ones to be ordered.  As of right now the minimum payments are being made.  It has been suggested to me to look into consolidation loans from the credit Union I belong to.  When I suggested this to my Brother and Sister they both had reservations on this.   I will try again with J when he comes up.

Health:  With all that is going on I am managing to get exercise through the clearing out of the house (who needs weight lifting when you can haul heavy objects and items up and downstairs and to cars etc.).  I have been walking at least once a day at work weather permitting.

I have had some doctor visits recently that went well.  The hematologist last week liked the numbers from recent blood tests.  I had my infusion earlier this week and another next month.  I have a dermatology appointment, pulmonary, also next month.

I haven’t seen the inside of the gym since last Saturday but keep saying maybe later or tomorrow.  I haven’t signed up for classes because by the time I get home at night I am tired and now that we are beginning the in person search for condos I won’t have time.

Work:  The issues with DCS scanning have been finally resolved and yesterday began the scanning.  It was about access and the staff that worked on it was taking their time.  Now that that has been resolved I will now have to rearrange my daily routine with these things.

Shadow and I are about ready to have it out before she goes on vacation.  She has been speaking rather rudely to me of late and I am done.  I had told her supervisor today before I left.  I also told my on-site team leader.  She has been barking orders to me regarding mail and I really need to remind her that we may not be each other’s boss but I am the mail lead.  I need to ask questions on whether or not things came in.  WE are having a chat about what I will do while Shadow is gone.  We were already given instructions about certain things (I can scan documents to people it was a challenge I have met).

As a matter of fact starting next month TRS department/ courier service will be doing the mail runs.  One of the reps will be delivering mail that hasn’t been delivered by the other service later today.  It really should have been given to them from the very beginning.

The negotiations are going along.  Some new proposals from the union have been submitted and now they are waiting for counter-proposals.  WE have a rally later today for the Omni hotel unions.  They are our sister unions and the corporation not hiring back from the pandemic.  The recent negotiation updates are not being made public yet.

I did let the committee know I have personal issues that will conflict with activities with the union.  They managed to get me to volunteer for this activity today.

Family updates:  Earlier this week the anniversary of Mom’s death.  We didn’t make much of it but it was felt by me because of the current situation and the fact I was stressing out with Liz at one point.

We finally had a family reunion via zoom on my mother’s side of the family recently.  There were 12 of us.  Some came late but it was great.  They were told of my plans to move.  No criticisms or judgements just curiosity.

My Niece’s future DIL lost her Grandmother yesterday so in addition to the final preparations and countdown to the wedding they have to prepare and navigate through the funeral process.  This may not be appropriate in this item but said wedding invitations came in the mail today.  I am looking forward to this.

All of Liz’s kids are getting ready or have returned to school this week amid various groups expressing concerns about the plans or the validity of the plans for the return to school in Connecticut.  Some teachers want it done differently, Parents, Bus drivers also express concerned as well.

Jim’s kids are doing well.  Kristian is working, Emily is working, and James has returned to school and started classes.

Angel Brother’s kids are doing well.  As I said earlier I am expecting D&R to come up and get the remaining dishes from her collection. John has moved to Fayetteville to the Army base.  Rob is…well Rob.

The Kitties: I keep thinking they don’t understand what is going on around here with the cleaning.  So every chance I get I tell them we will be starting a new adventure.   When anyone comes they hide or sleep. They have been sleeping and hiding in weird places (weirder than usual).  Furniture they haven’t slept on at all they now sleep on.  Sky is currently grooming himself (note to self-expect hairball).  They are primary concern during the condo hunt/house cleaning.  I have been told they don’t react well to change.  Well most cats generally don’t like change.

I am not letting them down in the cellar anymore after I broke some class punch servers.  I cleaned it up when I dropped them Wednesday but there were some remnants of it left.

My Volunteering activities:  With the Corvid 19 pandemic (or post pandemic) continuing there hasn’t been much going on.  At least from where I see things.  There haven’t been many meetings either on line or in person. 

I did contact my 4^th District chairman and another friend from the district yesterday and told them of the plans to put the house on the market.  I am expecting an email in my inbox tomorrow morning from at least one of them.  The election is more than 9 weeks away.  Aside from the primary I have not received any alerts for campaigns or volunteering.

The Ladies Guild is supposed to start next month.  What have I heard? Not a thing.  I ran into Tori who is the Religious education coordinator for the church, and school at the grocery store and she eluded we won’t be able to have food at the meetings.  There hasn’t been anything in the bulletins or anything like that.  I will have to email the new president and ask her what’s going on.  I will also tell her the plans for the house.

I am getting the distinct feeling that the Recreation Director at the nursing home isn’t going to call me back anytime soon.  Actually I am okay with that.  It was time for me to move on anyway.

The Weather: Its been sunny for the most part until yesterday when we had some severe thunderstorms and tornados.  North Haven, Hamden, and New Haven were hit pretty bad.  I can agree to that as I left the office yesterday.

Well it’s nearly 3 in the morning and I will be getting up in a couple of hours to get ready for work.  So I will check in later today.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Man am I beat

 

Well when we last met I discussed the past week’s activities and the plans for yesterday

I went to meet with Alex for our second to last session (Tuesday will be the final one) he tells me I still have two more weeks I can do the classes.  He will also be discussing with the gym manager about allowing me to “cash in” if you will my points that I have collected over the years and possibly get two months of free classes.  In the mean time I will attend class until the end of the month. 

I told him all the things I ate this week (well except the brownie) and why I hadn’t made it to the gym.  We discussed grocery budgets and the best foods.  He did say to have rice but not the minute rice but uncle Bens.  We discussed what would be good and just what to do with diet and the choices.

After wards I headed home.  I still had about an hour or so before Liz came over.  We talked earlier via text.  She needed to come later (and I agreed).  This gave me time to do some more laundry and straighten up a little bit more.  As I told her I was afraid it would stress and she said no.  She wasn’t going to Judge and if she didn’t like all she had to do is go home and leave it behind. 

We spent a few minutes organizing and talking about the move and stuff.  We started off in the guest room.  We have tagged stuff to be either saved or taken out.  We got rid of stuff that needed to be sent to good will or the trash.  We finished just a little after 4.

Liz was put out by the way Next door’s driveway was.  I explained in order to have that the new shack he had to measure and it came out that he owned it.  She thought he was a little rude.  I think she may have forgotten the conversation she had with him years ago.

 

 

She also didn’t like the fact the neighbors across the street park in front of my house all the time and ask why they don’t park in front of theirs.   I reminded her they can park where ever they want.  She isn’t the only one who says this to me when they come over but (this was the first time in a couple of years she has been here) I personally want to get into it with them.  They don’t live here and my sister should know better. 

She also doesn’t like the way my Cleaning lady does the cleaning.  I do but not this week.  I did end up telling Livia last week there are changes coming regarding the house.  I may have to reconsider her as my cleaning lady.

Anyway back to purging story.  We spent about an hour and half ID’ing and emptying out crap I don’t need from the guest room and the attic stairway.  Between the two of us deciding and emptying I got tired.  AT one point Liz says she was doing all the work she stopped herself.

We had at least three bags of crap for the garbage, recyclable, and good will.  She did say to me that my nephews Mike and Bryan will come and empty or take the stuff out or get a dumpster.  I had told her earlier I saw some coupons for that 1-800 Got Junk Company.  That could also be an alternative.

At the end of that we discussed what should be done next.  We will be doing this for the next several weekends and during the week.  In subsequent texts she reminded me to text my niece D and tells her I have stuff of her father’s and asked if she wants it.  Then text Jim and ask about pictures we found of his wedding to C and of the kids coming to America when they were adopted.  Some of these were in Letters to Mom. 

She also suggested that as we go along find boxes to collect again and make the sunroom the packing location.  It doesn’t have to be done right now but as we go along.

Liz seems to think we should do the attic and cellar next and the Kitchen and other rooms later.  That they will take the longest to clear out and put away eventually.  Once that’s done maybe call Cheryl and begin the search process. 

She reminded me earlier when we were talking of what to keep or let go that I won’t have that much money to get things.  A part of me can’t help think even though she wants me in a safe and good place that she is expecting me to be restricted in many ways.  Of course I will be restricted but I am not comfortable with what she is expecting or hoping.

She also told me as much as Jim is being good with her about this she doesn’t really trust him.  That he has hurt her too much and really doesn’t believe he will continue to be helpful or whatever.  I was worried at how long this Détente would last.

As I was leaving for Good Will I saw next door and told him what the end results of the activities last week.  I had already told him about Lawyer man’s behavior.  He asked when do I expect to put the house up and I told him wasn’t sure but probably the holidays.  He was kind and said He was sorry to see me go.

I am holding off telling the other neighbors for now.  I am sure they were wondering what I was doing yesterday.  I am holding off because I do share way too much and as you know back pedal on decisions.

When I texted D about her father’s things I also told her that I changed my mind about moving and that it wasn’t financially feasible.  She asked me what changed my mind and so I called and left a voice mail.  I don’t remember if I told her how much debt I was in.  Afterwards I had visions of her calling Jim demanding we fight lawyer man.  I also hoped she would call me back so I could fill her in with what I told her.  I know I left out some stuff.

I heard from Mama Roberta last night.  We are still waiting on news about Dr. T and her recent tests and surgery.  I also told her of the decision to acquiesce to lawyer guy.  I will tell her more in our semiweekly check in later on Sunday.

The rest of Sunday was supposed to go to class but I am not making it but will exercise. 

I have some errands to make and then plan some grocery shopping to do.  I told Liz what my plans for budgeting and revising grocery stuff and wardrobes and stuff.

I may just relax for the day and get ready for the week ahead.

I am also very pleased that Authoress51 and I will be pen pals.  I have been following her on her blogs now for quite some time and we actually met via Zoom at the Meetup virtual Trivia games this past spring. 

Speaking of pen pals this guy sent me and a few others a pen pal request and it really was unpleasant.  Two people chastised him and demanded that he not contact them.  I put in my two cents and asked not to be included and I apologized to those he offended and wished them well.  For some reason one of them reposted the original email.  I just deleted it.

The weather right now is not making me move fast.  It’s overcast and expected some rain.   The temps seem cooler than in the past week.  I still have the AC on.

A Definite Milestone

 

I must begin this entry with an apology for the symphony of chirping crickets lately.  I have been going through some challenging times since Tropical storm Isaias.  The day after it hit I noticed the gutter needed repair and so I called my lawyer/Trustee (if you have been following me for while it was set up long before Mom died) to let him know it needed to be fixed.  He didn’t see it but came and surveyed the property and started a bullying campaign to reissue the whole “we need to put the house on the market” .  We argued and by the end of the conversation he hung up on me.  He sent me a very insulting voice mail by the end of that same week after my brother spoke to him.

   My family and I met at the beginning of the week with my therapist to discuss what could be done but came to the conclusion that it isn’t worth fighting him.  We are not giving in but I cannot afford to manage this big house. My brother spoke to him and got the SOB to back off as long as we made efforts to restart the process of cleaning out the house and look for a more manageable  residence.  My family has been very supportive of me and we agree that this guy is chauvinist and a whole slew of other adjectives I won’t dignify with.

So I have restarted a budget and working to get the debt down.  I have been getting advice from how to fight him, to how to best search for the new place (I have been looking but there are some variables that I don’t know yet) to budget shopping for groceries etc.   My sister will be coming over to help the purging process begin today.

So the milestone I was going to write about was 58 years ago today my family moved into the house I am about to give up.  AT that time it was my parents and my three older siblings.  I was born two weeks later.  So for my 58^th birthday in two weeks I will be in the middle of a new start. 

Work is going okay.  The scanning machine problem is still a problem and we are waiting on someone to do something.  WE have been very patient and we do have scanning to do.  I have been working on refund scanning and that is done through the copier.

The parking lot that we use is in the beginning stages of being repaired so we have had to park in a small adjacent lot near the building but have to be careful not to park in the school parking lot that we share.  We have been getting warnings to move or be towed.

The University is preparing for the fall semester that starts in two weeks.  Some departments are still mixed with on campus working and remote working.  We are constantly being reminded about the social distancing and to wear the mask when needed. 

Labor negotiations are currently going on and I am pretty sure they are still a little rough.  I was not at the last meeting because my brother was arriving at the same time.  I am pretty sure I will be hearing about it next time.

I have been trying to get out and walking at break times and lunchtimes except the last couple of days because I wanted to focus on work or I wasn’t here for part of the week.  Sadly I am finishing up the last two sessions with Alex this coming week.  I had to let him go because of my current financial crisis.  He was absolutely understanding and wonderful about it.  He will be there to reach out if I need to. 

I would like to say I have been trying to follow my diet but I recently made buttered spaghetti and clearly not on the diet.  I had it for dinner the last couple of nights.  My reasoning is flawed.  I attributed to the new grocery budget.  I have been looking at budget meal plans online recently so hopefully I will be able to follow it.

I will be keeping the gym membership and they have been all very kind.  Again it would be great if I actually got there.  I was there Tuesday but the rest of the week not so much.  I won’t be able to go to the classes as they are additional (part of the Edge Strong program).  I was just told I have them until the end of the month so I can still go to the classes until my birthday.  However I will be doing the routines or whatever the word is for it on my own. That is if I force myself to the gym.

The rest of the family seems to be busy with the end of summer activities and bridal shower events.  I went to the bridal shower last weekend for my great niece to be and it was a blast despite the turmoil going on with me.  The people were great, the scenery was great, and of course so was the food.  Gina got so many wonderful gifts I wonder what’s left on the Registry for the October nuptials.

 I have finally found out more about a new pen pal.  She recently sent me an intro letter that was like her emails to me lately.  It was short and sweet.  I am working on her letter now and updating her file.  She is from South Carolina but is originally from Texas. 

Well I need to move along and do some more stuff before the gym and before sis gets here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

errands

Good news checked the informed delivery and it looks like I am getting the new CC today.  What a relief.  Too bad the two amazon deliveries (the wipes and TP) are nowhere to be seen.  I have placed two refund requests.  I had to contact the seller for the wipes because amazon isn’t going to refund it.  The TP refund will be honored.   I plan on writing to the corporate headquarters and recommend they reevaluate their third party venders. 

I went to AT&T store today and the guy was absolutely useless.  He said basically that I should ignore it because AT&T would have called or something.    I will try again because I don’t like the answer. 

I went to Walmart and returned the Fitbit and it will be a few days before it posts back into my account.  When I got back to the car I downloaded one pedometer and I didn’t like the way it was tracking my steps and shared the story with Alex when I saw him for our session.  I have downloaded another one I am testing and it’s been rocky.  I have no patience with stupid shit.  I also think this goes back to the phone not being right.

I had a late lunch from Wendy’s this afternoon.  As I told Alex this evening I was sorely tempted to get a hamburger but instead I got their Southwest Avocado Salad.  The chicken was huge.   I ate it at home.  I told Alex about it and he reminded me to be careful of the guacamole because of the Caloric intake.  Later on after my session with Alex I picked up some more milk and regular Half and half.  WE had discussed my indulgence with the creamer so I promised him I would reduce it but I also got milk because I was low on that. 

JOC and I were unable to walk today because JOC has something wrong with her foot.  She will see the doctor on Monday but if she was feeling better we will go tomorrow or the next day.  She will definitely be going to the meetup if the weather holds up.

I had a wonderful phone conversation with Big Brother.   We talked about so many things.  Housekeeping and the steps to keep ourselves organized and what is important to us.  Several times I told him we are certainly soul mates.  We seem to have the same views on a lot of things.  I even admitted to him that my finances are not as good.  I have a hard time telling that to Liz.

I talked with Mama for about 20 minutes before going into Walmart and we talked about Telka’s kids, what’s opening in LV, and discussed the possibilities of travel.  I admitted to her that I think I was channeling her sister.  Her sister has hard time managing money as well.  It’s been a source of contention with them.

Oh someone was shooting off fireworks and they looked great but its just before 10.  It’s not the first time there have been a number of nights in the past week the fireworks have been shot off.  Last week I was woken up at 3 in the morning.  My Guess is since the cities have cancelled their fireworks displays many are doing their own more than usual.

 

Monday Musings

Well it’s early Monday.  I believe we are in a heatwave. It’s already 74 degrees and its only 9 am.  It is expected to get into the mid-80s.  Wait a second I see by the weather forecast we might get rain by the end of the week.  It would be nice I heard its been awhile since we got rain.  It seems like it by looking at my lawn.  I am not big on watering the lawn.  I like when Mother Nature does it.  I realize I may not have a choice.

I went walking late yesterday afternoon with JOC and it was a good walk.  The conversations were a bit frustrating.  I found myself critical of a lot of things and she didn’t seem to mind but she has a favorite phrase that I can’t seem to recall but one thing that sticks out is “for the grace of God goes me”.  Something my sister says to me quite often for herself.  Anyway, I don’t want to jeopardize that relationship so I need to temper my views in some way.  Anyway, I am not sure if we are walking at all today.  I will call her tonight or she will call me (I hope) and plan for tomorrow.  It will have to be early in the morning because I signed up for class early.

I have been sitting on news for the last month.  Liz told me last month that my nephew Chris and Jen are expecting a baby in December.   She asked me to hold off blabbing the news until they do.  Well up until today I told only Debra.  Yesterday there was a zoom gender reveal party (that my sister forgot to tell me about) and announced they are having a BOY.  I am not mentioning it on Facebook until they do.  I asked Liz if I could share.  She asked that I hold off a day or I could ask them.  I decided to hold off a day.  No names yet.

I have been waiting to see the bills I paid were sent and they were.  Now I have to remember a couple of other things will be paid this week.    Things will definitely be tight and I had to tap into my savings.  I am trying not to panic but its what happens.

It doesn’t look like I will be getting any mail today.  I was hoping that the New CC would be arriving today.  I think I made an error in timing. 

The status of the Fitbit is the same.  I am planning to do one of two things.  Call for a new one or return this and get the one I should have gotten in the first place and pray it works.  I should be checking the forum and seeing what they suggest but the updates I did get were people still having problems.  When I told a neighbor he suggested I call support and see if they could help.

I still need to call AT&T about data and see what I need to do.  I don’t know if I can fix the data limits from the phone or decide what to do.   Well that was a fail.  I couldn’t call anyone but I tried the automatic chat thing and it didn’t help.  I am going to have to go to the AT&T store.

My friend JohnM sent me an email yesterday saying my account was hacked…I checked with google chrome and it says I haven’t been compromised.  So who am I to believe?

So the cats seem to be enjoying the warm sunshine.  They were sitting in the cellar on the cool cement by the windows, and sitting out back. Now though Sky is above my head on the couch and I am pretty sure Tiger is up in my old bedroom sleeping under the desk. 

I heard from another new pal it was Belinda.  She sounds wonderful.  I am hoping to get her letters and many others written today before I go to the gym this evening.

 

 

Happy Birthday Rob

Yesterday was my nephew Rob’s Birthday.  I don’t remember how old any of my nieces and nephews is really.  I am guessing mid 30’s.   Sadly I don’t get to see him much.  I haven’t talked with him in quite some time.  I am guessing he sees his mother frequently.  I am not sure if there are issues with his siblings.  Then again this is my family there are always issues going on.  Anyway a memory popped up on FB and I shared it and said the same message.  OF course he isn’t on FB.

Yesterday was the first exercise class and they had it outside.  It was a little hard but my hope is to get better over time.  it was partners and I had the lady who is always supportive.  I was right I do look like a whale in the Picture that Mike posted on FB.  It may take you to his whole time line you may have t scroll down.  Alex was the instructor but Mike was setting up for his own clients.   I came home after class and did some TV watching, sleeping, and surfing the net.    I  went back later for my session with Alex and we talked about the quarantine and if I weighed myself.  I should have said yes once but I was afraid to.  I did check on my-chart and so I will tell him on Tuesday.

I bought a Fitbit InspireHR  at Walmart and followed the instructions and it hasn’t done anything.  I went on their forum and there seems to be many people having issues.  I am so angry about this.  I spent almost $100 on this.  I should have stuck with the regular one for lesser amount.  I was carrying on yesterday and I was pretty loud.  I sometimes think the neighbors can hear me.   I just don’t know what to do with this now.  This was one of many things that had kept me up again.

I got a call from JOC that I walked with on Friday and she wanted to go walking yesterday but I just couldn’t.  Too tired and aggravated so we made plans for some point today.  I originally said I couldn’t go Sunday morning but the afternoon would work.  Even that changed for me but we have plans for 4 pm today..

I was thrilled to receive the first of the two coffee deliveries yesterday.  The next one I hope will be here tomorrow.  My hope is all of these will last me a while.  I doubt it but I can still hope.  The latest chewy order (the litter) arrived as well.   You are all probably wondering why I am still ordering this after all the griping I did about finances.  Believe me it’s a definite worry.  I am waiting for a few of the payments to be posted and then hold off on using the credit cards for a while.

I also received the car payment statement and a service agreement from the oil company I use.  Gee when it rains it pours.  I have already scheduled the car payment but I was not expecting this service agreement this week.  I may call them and see if I can delay the mailing of it.

I was thrilled to find a couple of ladies who wanted to be pen pals and I sent out my intro to them.  I was working on their files yesterday for a little while. Of course a few guys contacted me and this time didn’t reply to them. 

The rest of the night made dinner and channel surfed and then went to bed to listen to the radio and write.

I heard from Mama Roberta via FB.  She was reacting to some posts I shared and she tells me that our friend Dr. T’s kids all live in CA.  I had no idea.  I suspect if I replied to Dr. T’s letter I would have found that out.  She says she will call sometime today.

I am trying to have some alone time with my boy Sky.  He was doing a lot of vocalizing (meowing whatever) and I was kind of harsh with him.  I was trying to work on something (the Fitbit probably).  I started feeling guilty and so he and I are fine now.

Well I have some things to do have a great Father’s day…

 

 

Success

I thought for sure ordering a new credit card for my lost card would be hassle.  In some ways it was (couldn’t talk to a human) but after a second try I was able to get the old one cancelled and the new one ordered and it should be here by next Tuesday.

I went to the gym yesterday and spent about an hour and half there and got a chance to see Alex.  Told him how things.  After the ice cream admission he said new day new beginnings.  I was disappointed that I couldn’t do the skier epileptics machine.  I managed one of the bikes.  I was planning on going this morning but nothing went right for me.  So I will go later this afternoon.  My pedometer once again got wonky on me thrice by the end of the night so I am not sure how many steps I did..

I had a little bit of time when I got home from the gym to relax and then feed the titans before getting ready for the meetup.  I ended up leaving later than I wanted to I had chatted with neighbors and friends from the gym.  The ride wasn’t bad and almost reminded me of the ride from Saturday.

Even though the traffic wasn’t bad I got there a little late and found the ladies towards the picnic tables.  Gillion had two of her coworkers’ join us, the new member who wants to find someone who wants to walk and we did that.  Of course JackieB was there and so was Cyn, and then Paula joined us.  It got really intense while JackieB was sharing some stories of her marriage and Cyn just started to cry.  First I went to her and then Jackie and Gillion.  Cyn came back and Paula and I sat and held her hand for a while.  She is going through crap.  Hopefully it will be ending soon.  We talked about the current events and reopening the state and life in general.  We were there until 8:30.  The clouds rolled in but no rain. 

I was home by 9 and got the garbage put out.  I watched TV and got online until about 10.

This morning Sky pissed me off.  He clawed my hand and my lip this morning.  They bled a little but it hurt.  He nailed me when I was going to the bathroom.  Actually tiger clawed me on the arm last night too.  I yelled at him. I hate when I do that.  I feel guilty.

I got up and did our routine but fell back to sleep for some time.  When I woke up I did some bill paying as some of them needed to get paid.  These were the cc.  I also paid off the water bill.  I think I still will be getting another bill.

AT one point I was all set to go the gym but I couldn’t find my ID holder.  I looked all over the place.  I was starting to panic because I really didn’t want to have to go and cancel the cards as it is too much of hassle.  I even called Roses Orchard to see if they found it.   They didn’t but I did a short time later.  I called them back and told them I found it.

However, after that I just didn’t want to go.  I did call Judith from the meetup and arranged to go walking.  We made plans to go tomorrow morning around 10. 

I made some lunch and am now putting off going to the gym…I have laundry to do..and then later the trivia game….may take a nap. 

 

 

 

Few things bothering me

I am moving slowly again.  I knew I would.  Right now though I am a little annoyed with the laptop.  It won’t open one of my other google accounts and I wanted to do something with it.  It has also froze a few other sites and it shouldn’t.

I am also concerned about one of the titans.  One of them is having loose poo. I don’t know if it is the food I am giving them or the fact I really have to clean the litter box.  It's been hard to clean out the litter box.  Not all the clumping is coming out and it really should.  It ends up hurting my wrists.

The wrists.  For the past few days my wrists and forearms have been hurting just like they did when I was first getting the aches and pains almost sixteen years ago.  If I move it slowly it hurts.  I am trying to find the prednisone that I bought.  Can’t find it.  I may have to buy plaquenil.

Still have to figure out the GoodRX stuff.

I had my financial investment review today.  Personally I didn’t feel it was necessary to be there.  It was a waste of time for both parties.  He was trying very hard to get me to put my savings account into the investment.  I have my reason for having it.   My investments are doing well but probably could do better.  He wants me to also contribute more to it as well.  I am sure it makes sense to do it but I have other priorities first.

I got home around 1 had some lunch.  Then actually dove into getting the litter box out back cleaned up.  As always made a bigger mess in the kitchen.  I still have to do the litter mat but it can’t be put in the washing machine.  I will have to do it the way it recommends.  I just don’t know if the hose outside is working well.  I don’t use it much.

I did some laundry and need to continue to do it and get them hung up.  I was going to put some vases in boxes today but its not working for me.  Will do it tomorrow.  

OH I did get  an email from ActivitiesDirector at the nursing home.  They are not having Bingo the first weekend of September so she gave me two later dates.  I picked the one at the end of the month.  So I will be doing bingo two weeks in a row at the end of September.  I just hope I will remember that when the time comes.

I got a wonderful Birthday Postcard from Linden Hall school alumni.  I posted a thank you on the FB page.  I got a couple of likes!  I was afraid there would be someone says “I didn’t get a card for my birthday.  You never know if you should post it or not or send a quick email off.  Then what would be the point of having a FB page?

The two lb roast that I cooked tonight came out really well.  Seasoned it , with italian seasons (Oregona flakes, salt, pepper, and garlic), cut up an onion and cooked it for 45 minutes to an hour.  Let it sit for about 10 minutes and cut in to it and it was great.  Cleaned up the kitchen a little and then took a shower.  

Fell asleep on the couch until a short time ago and now going to bed....